For young adults aged 18–25, living at home can offer financial security during university years or while saving for independence. However, for those living with toxic parents, the experience can be emotionally draining and challenging to navigate. In Glasgow, a city brimming with opportunities, resources, and supportive networks, young people can take proactive steps to protect their mental health and pave the way for a brighter future.

Recognising Toxic Patterns

Toxic parenting can take many forms, including controlling behaviour, emotional manipulation, verbal abuse, or neglect.

Signs of toxic parenting include:

• Consistent criticism or name-calling.

• Overstepping boundaries or invading privacy.

• Guilt-tripping or making you feel responsible for their emotions.

• Gaslighting or denying your feelings.

Coping Strategies

If moving out isn’t financially or logistically feasible, coping with a toxic environment requires both emotional resilience and practical steps:

1. Build a Support Network

Living in a toxic household can be isolating. Seek out connections outside the home—friends, classmates, or Glasgow-based support groups can provide perspective and a safe space. The Young Minds helpline and SAMH (Scottish Association for Mental Health) offer resources specifically for young people facing mental health struggles.

2. Set Boundaries

Establishing boundaries with toxic parents is crucial, even if they push back.

Use clear, firm language to communicate what you will and won’t tolerate. For example, ‘I won’t talk about my career choices if you keep criticizing them.’ Establishing boundaries is about safeguarding yourself, not seeking to punish others.

3. Create Personal Space

Whether it’s a corner of your bedroom or a few hours outside, find areas where you feel calm and in control. Take advantage of Glasgow’s parks like Kelvingrove or Pollok Park for regular mental resets.

Kelvingrove Park by Mark Liddell via Getty Images

4. Seek Professional Help

Therapy can be a lifeline. Glasgow’s Counselling and Psychotherapy Centre offers affordable sessions for students, while some universities provide free counselling services. If you’re in immediate distress, Breathing Space Scotland offers 24/7 support at 0800 83 85 87.

5. Pursue Independence

Even small steps toward financial or emotional independence can make a difference. Consider part-time work, budgeting for future housing, or exploring student accommodation if you’re at college or university. Platforms like Glasgow Pad and CityLets list affordable housing options.

Inspiring Stories

Laura, 22, a student at Glasgow Caledonian University, shares her experience:

“I lived with my parents while studying and struggled with their constant criticism. Joining a campus club and finding a part-time job gave me the confidence to move into shared housing with friends. It’s made all the difference.”

Similarly, Liam, 24, chose to confront the situation directly:

“I realised my parents weren’t going to change, so I started therapy and worked on my responses to their behaviour. Now, I know when to walk away from arguments and focus on my goals instead.”

By Ekaterina Goncharova via Getty Images

Building a Path Forward

Living with toxic parents isn’t easy, but it doesn’t have to define your future. Glasgow’s supportive community and resources can help young adults reclaim their independence and mental well-being.

For further guidance, explore these resources:

• SAMH (Scottish Association for Mental Health): Support for mental health challenges.

• Young Minds: Help for young people facing emotional difficulties.

• Citizens Advice Scotland: Housing and financial advice.

• Breathing Space Scotland: Free, confidential helpline for mental health support.

Taking small, consistent steps to prioritise your well-being can lead to lasting change. You’re not alone, and help is available—right here in Glasgow.

Coping with toxic parents: a survival guide for young adults in Glasgow